Hey there, beautiful soul. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re juggling more plates than a circus performer. Life in our 30’s, 40’s and beyond can feel like a whirlwind of responsibilities, expectations, and uncertainties. Amidst this chaotic dance, anxiety can creep in like an unwelcome guest, overstaying its welcome and draining your energy.

Did you know that anxiety among women over 35 is more common than you might think? Studies have shown that approximately 40% of women in this age group experience anxiety disorders at some point in their lives. Beyond the mental toll, anxiety can manifest physically, leading to weight gain, sleep disturbances, and even cardiovascular issues (Reference: National Institute of Mental Health, Anxiety and Depression Association of America).

Debunking Myths:

Before we dive into solutions, let’s dispel some myths. One common misconception is that anxiety is just a natural part of getting older or that it’s something you should just “get over.” The truth is, anxiety is a legitimate medical condition that requires attention and care or else.

Identifying the Causes:

Understanding the roots of your anxiety is key to overcoming it. Here are the top 10 causes:

  1. Stressful life events
  2. Hormonal changes
  3. Trauma or past experiences
  4. Genetics
  5. Health conditions
  6. Financial worries
  7. Relationship issues
  8. Work pressure
  9. Lack of self-care
  10. Perfectionism
  11. Tight Iliopsoas Muscle

Deeper Reasons:

But why is it so hard for women over 35 to let go of anxiety? Here are three deeper reasons:

  1. Identity Shift: As we move into our 30s and beyond, we may grapple with shifting identities—career changes, motherhood, empty nests, or relationship shifts. These transitions can stir up deep-seated fears and insecurities.
  2. Self-Expectations: Society often puts undue pressure on women to have it all together by a certain age. The internalized pressure to meet societal expectations can exacerbate anxiety, leading to a constant fear of falling short.
  3. Emotional Baggage: Years of navigating life’s ups and downs can leave us with emotional baggage that weighs heavy on our hearts and minds, making it difficult to let go and embrace peace.

Quick Tips for Each Deeper Reason:

Identity Shift:

  1. Embrace Change: Instead of resisting change, try to see it as an opportunity for growth. Journaling about your fears and aspirations can help you navigate this transition with grace.
  2. Seek Support: Surround yourself with friends, family, or a therapist who can offer guidance and empathy as you navigate this period of transition.
  3. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself during this time of flux. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a dear friend.


  1. Challenge Perfectionism: Recognize that perfection is an illusion and that it’s okay to embrace imperfection. Set realistic goals and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
  2. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to unrealistic demands and prioritize self-care. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
  3. Reframe Negative Thoughts: When negative self-talk creeps in, challenge those thoughts with evidence to the contrary. Replace self-criticism with self-compassion.

Emotional Baggage:

  1. Practice Forgiveness: Let go of past hurts by practicing forgiveness, both for others and for yourself. Holding onto resentment only fuels anxiety.
  2. Mindfulness and Meditation: Cultivate mindfulness practices to anchor yourself in the present moment and release attachment to past pain.
  3. Seek Closure: If there are unresolved issues weighing on your mind, consider seeking closure through therapy, journaling, or conversations with loved ones.


On this journey to peace, you may encounter obstacles like self-doubt, setbacks, or resistance to change. Remember that progress isn’t always linear, and it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Be patient with yourself and trust the process.

Recap and Vision for the Future:

As you embark on this journey to let go of anxiety, envision a life filled with peace, joy, and inner strength. Picture yourself radiating with confidence, unburdened by the weight of worry.

To quote Rumi,

“Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor.”

Because when you release anxiety’s grip, you open yourself up to endless possibilities and boundless potential.

Next Steps:

Ready to dive deeper into mastering your mind and finding inner peace? Consider signing up for my upcoming workshop on how to use our “Body-Based Method” to releasing anxiety, losing unwanted pounds, and increasing energy. Investing in your mental well-being is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself. You deserve it.

About the Author Ko

I love helping people get healthy, strong and energized. As a Health, Nutrition & Performance Specialist, a Sports Physical Therapist, and Weight Loss Scientist, I'm confident I can help you. As an Over 50 Dad of two, you can trust I walk the walk and know my way around staying young even when super busy.

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